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State Street, Chicago
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Gary and Ginger get engaged
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A special event – Gary and Ginger get engaged
Okay I admit it, this isn’t a special picture in the photographic sense, but it isn’t every day you get engaged.
A special event requires a special place, and I proposed just after we had finished seeing the Edward Hopper exhibition at The Art Institute of Chicago.

We had just left the Hopper exhibition and were taking a quick rest when Ginger said it was one of the best days. When better to pop the question? Just as well I was carrying the ring around with me waiting for the right moment. Not exactly the most romantic of locations, but one we will certainly remember. -
Hair Cut
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Gary Allman – Self Portrait
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Gala Theatre – Durham UK
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Kiosk – Kings Cross Station – UK
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Blue
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k1 Visa
After a lot of debate, we are going to file for the K1 Visa. Essentially the immigration choices are:
- Get Married, live apart and apply for a Spousal Visa (K3), once (if) approved, enter the US and get on with our lives.
- Get engaged, apply for a Fiancé(e) Visa (K1), once (if) approved, enter the US and get married within 90 days.
If you’re interested in the differences this document: Comparison of Marriage Based US Immigration Choices (K1, K3, IR1 Visas & DCF) should help.
The first step of that is sending the 129-F form to the USCIS (US Citizenship and Immigration Services). Information and forms can be found on www.USCIS.gov. The following site also provides a lot of information Visa Journey.
Here’s what we needed to file my application:
- $455
- Original statement, signed and dated by me, certifying my intent to marry Ginger within 90 days of admission on K1 visa.
- Proof of having met and having a relationship: Copies of any or all of: boarding passes, itineraries, receipt from Piedmont House??, copies of passport stamps (if date is readable), copy of cell phone bill, copies of a few emails, screen print of gmail inbox (a few over a few dates), stamped envelope, copies of cards, etc.
- Form G-325A (all pages filled out, signed, and dated). When the question does not apply, put in N/A. If the answer is none, type “none”. This form can be filled out online for ease.
- A passport photo. White background, full frontal face, glossy, 2″x2″ with the face being 1″. Must have been taken within 30 days of application.
- Copy of divorce decree.
From the Visa Journey site …wise advice…
IMPORTANT!
Make TWO copies of the entire package before you send it in. This includes the money orders too. You want to have a perfect replica of the package you are sending in. All Forms that you submit must be originals with original signatures. Supporting Evidence that you submit may be photocopies. Retain ALL original supporting Evidence since the USCIS has the right to check them by issuing an RFE (Request For Evidence). If you receive an RFE, follow the direction exactly, and make two copies of what you sent back. During any future interviews the USCIS may also want to examine the original supporting evidence.
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Single again
Today I received the decree absolute. Four months after my first meeting with my solicitor. Now we can apply for my visa. All I need is the list of papers I need to take with me on my next visit.
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St. Barnabas Church, Rose Road, Southampton
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Jubilee Church, Somers Road, Portsmouth UK
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Long Haul (365:15)

A Collaborative Effort We’re in this for the long haul, while red tape binds us there are no quick returns despite their best efforts at keeping us apart we are constant companions in our hearts separated by earth and sea parted by time and sleep we work as one towards the days ahead precious time we spend together reminds us that we’re in this for the long haul.
This picture was a collaboration. I captured it, Ginger came up with the treatment and I Photoshopped it. I have changed Ginger’s title though, ‘Sex sells’ seemed far too presumptuous for me to be comfortable with.
There appear to be some horrid Photoshop artifacts in this picture I’m still working on eradicating them.
Note: picture re-edited on July 31, 2015
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Decree absolute
Decree absolute: Unknown to me at the time, but on this day my Decree absolute was declared. I was officially single for around a week before I knew it.
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Back to Basics (365:14)
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Warm Welcome
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Arrival
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A lot to consider (365:4)
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Evening Rituals (365:3)

There are several certainties in my evenings, and they include sitting at the computer, cleaning my teeth, and talking on the ‘phone with my love.
Reviewing the original pictures for this re-visit to my 2008 365 days, I was momentarily temped to use one of the two alternative shots I took of me brushing my teeth. One wearing shorts, and one wearing a shirt and shorts. I didn’t use them because I concluded that that was just an attempt at being seen as being ‘correct’, rather than a reflection on the reality of my days.

Alternate shot – shirt & shorts. Copyright © 2008 Gary Allman, all rights reserved. 
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Colourful Pants (365:2)

Day two and I’m already being silly, but with a group called ‘Sexy Pants’ to post to what is a man supposed to do?
Of course this would have been much nicer on a warm sunny day, instead it was effing freezing in my flat, so chilly I had a lot of problems with goose bumps and shrinkage.
As I only have plain white cotton boxers, a pair of swimming trunks had to suffice as ‘Sexy pants’ and I’m most impressed they still fit as they over twenty years old. This is their second outing on 356days, as I wore them back to front for my picture of the red dress (365:032).
By the way, in the UK, pants are undergarments.























